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Recommitting to a world of real power: love
I’ve just spent the day with my colleagues at the Boulder Center for Conscious Community. We had our annual Open House and Sampler Day, opening
Nourishing ourselves
My partner has embarked on the first month of her commitment to eat better. This profound change has brought me face-to-face with the question of
Back from the Michigan woods
I just returned from a trip out east, where I spent 6 days in the woods in Michigan (for those Michiganders among you, I was
Invest your energy wisely
If you think about it, deciding that what is happening should not be happening is a first step into making yourself feel reeeeallly crazy. Criticizing
This shouldn’t be happening…
How many times do you have thoughts like this? “I should have known better…” “If only I’d done a more thorough job of planning, this
Looking for magic
I just had dinner with a wonderful group of people. You know the kind of event–we spent hours laughing and sharing and eating delicious food,
An alternative form of energy: Being authentic
Have you felt a bit lethargic lately? Do you notice that your energy is low, that you feel kind of blah, tired out, numb? Instead
Problem-solving from above or below the line
If you’ve read my new book, The Relationship Ride: A Usable, Unusual, Transformative Guide, you’re familiar with my ideas about Creative Brain versus Reactive Brain.
What wants to happen?
Here it is a week and a half out from the launch party of The Relationship Ride, and I still feel the swirl of love,
I swooned…
…when I saw my book. Really. There it was, the actual book, in my hands. I don’t think I’ve ever swooned before. I was lightheaded
Counting down…
…to when I get to hand out cigars. The publishers have the proof–now we’re waiting to see what the actual baby/book looks like, count all
The Relationship Ride (the baby is almost here)
My brilliant editor and dear friend, Verna Wilder, and I just did the dance of joy in the corridor of the BCCL. Why? Because in
Hear me demonstrate the Essence Interview tomorrow
Part of my joy in collaborating with Katie Hendricks over the weekend was our co-creation of The Essence Interview. This is what the Hendricks Institute
Adding the body
I just spent an amazing weekend teaching the workshop “Adding the Body” with my dear friend, colleague, and mentor, Dr. Kathlyn Hendricks. We had the
The Relationship Ride
I just reconnected with a dear friend of mine, someone who recently began a relationship. She reminded me of my vision of relationship, and told
Valentine’s Day, 2011
I love to set intentions at the beginning of my day. Taking space to breathe, move, and meditate allows me to sit in space and
Are you willing to feel good all the time?
I’m hanging out at LAX , waiting for my flight home. I’m sitting across from an adorable family (dad, two little kids) who are transfixed
Co-creating conscious community
Last night, about 45 of us gathered together to take the next step of the magical journey towards co-creating conscious community in Boulder. I felt
What feeds you?
I just spent 4 days in the Michigan woods with friends I’ve known so long, they’re family. There’s been a serious health crisis, and it
Tasting the sweetness of life
While undergoing abyanga, the warm oil, deep massage that is part of the panchakarma regimen I recently underwent, I heard this idea: We crave sweet
Rebooting through panchakarma
Today is my sixth day of eating mung beans and rice. Breakfast, lunch, and dinner–mung beans and rice, as much as I want to eat.
Co-creating with the universe
Back in October, I wrote a lot about what we don’t have control over, and the variety of ways we have to resist that reality.
Completions for 2010
Now is the time to do the end-of-year clearing, to prepare the way for the beginning-of-the year intending and manifesting. Here’s my toss to you,
5 tips for conscious holidays
‘Tis the season for overindulgences. Feasting on holiday delicacies, drinking wassail (I had to look it up–it’s a hot mulled cider), party punches, and champagne–YUM!
A triumph for integrity
I want to use this space to celebrate a victory for civil rights, a triumph for integrity–the repeal of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell. I feel
“I don’t want to make that mistake again.”
I talk to many people about what they want in their next relationship. Often they’re gun-shy. They look back in time at their past relationships,
Would you be willing to be whole-hearted?
Someone just sent me the link to this video, and I want to spread it everywhere. Brene Brown is a researcher (and storyteller) who has
This gorgeous new website
Wow–check it out!! Look around–do you notice the spaciousness, the quality of the design, the terrific colors of this spendid website? A team of us
“I don’t want to hurt you…”
I’ve realized lately that part of my job is to help people become more hurtful. In popular culture, the declaration comes at the beginning of
Deep rest
It’s been a week since we got back from our trip to Maui. As you can imagine, spending nine days on this beautiful island was
Just 5 minutes
It was a first-thing-in-the-morning scramble. Kath was heading out to send off some packages; Nicki, our guest from Ottawa, was searching for a water bottle
A note about control to those in intimate relationships…
If you’ve read my previous posts about control (parts One, Two, Three, and Four), you’ll notice my bottom line on the subject: There really isn’t
CONTROL: Part Four
So, if there actually very little about our lives that we do control (our behavior, our attention, our intentions) how in the world do we
And now for a break…
I’ve been posting about CONTROL (somehow, that word deserves all caps). There is more to come, but such a heavy subject deserves a breathing break.
CONTROL, Part 3
One of the main ways we create struggles with others–and within ourselves–is to decide, as Katie Hendricks says, we are having the wrong experience. “If
CONTROL, Part 2
Gay Hendricks talks about there being two files: those things we have control over, and those things we have no control over. Our trouble, he
CONTROL, Part 1
“If I have a hard time controlling myself, why would I want to control you?” –Tim Smith, yoga teacher. Having a sense of control plays
Wrap-up: 7 keys to conscious communication
Here’s the wrap-up of the Seven Keys to Conscious Communication, from my last seven blogs (you can click on any of these to go back
Seventh key to conscious communication: Committing to impeccable integrity
What ideas pop up for you when you read the words impeccable integrity? Here are my thoughts: Integrity: Remember integers? This is about wholeness. All
Sixth key to conscious communication: Solving from creative brain
Remember a time you were in a conflict with someone. Can you recall how your body felt? It’s universal: When we feel threatened by conflict
Fifth key to conscious communication: Noticing your state
As David Hawkins says, human consciousness is innocent. In other words, no matter what emotional state we’re in, we believe ourselves, and have difficulty accessing
Fourth key to conscious communication: Taking responsibility
If blame feels so good, why don’t I feel better? It’s driving me out of my mind. If blame feels so good, why don’t I
Third key to conscious communication: Speaking the truth
People have reasons for not telling the truth. Good ones, even. Reasons like: It’s not that big of a deal. It’s not a good time.
Second key to conscious communication: Connection to self
Have you ever uttered (or heard) these words? “I don’t feel connected to you.” Behind this declaration is an idea that connection is like a
First key to conscious communication: Freedom to feel
If I were queen of the planet earth, my first decree would be thus: ANYBODY GETS TO FEEL ANYTHING, ANYTIME, FOR ANY REASON. When I
Beyond fair fighting: Keys to conscious communication
I remember when I first discovered the idea of “fair fighting.” Growing up in a family where the siblings fought quite a lot, this idea
How we create from our state
According to David Hawkins, in his book Power vs. Force, every emotional state we enter into has its own particular vibration. Hawkins created an arbitrary,
How am I creating this? (Part 3)
One of the trickier aspects of being human is having a logical brain that understands cause and effect. You do something; I have a reaction.
How am I creating this? (Part 2)
The question of “How am I creating this?” is one of the most powerful that you can ask yourself in the middle of a difficult
How am I creating this? (Part 1)
The question, “How am I creating this?” is key to being able to move into one’s true power in any given situation. It’s usually pretty
When do I know I should leave?
I frequently hear the question, “When do I know I should leave my relationship?” I used to joke that I could get rich devising a
If this were a perfect world…
I had a session with a dear woman a few days ago. She’s had some big changes in her life, and was trying to figure
Living in space
I’ve been living from a main intention for the past six months, to Live From and In Space. This is a big step into for
Back from the woods
I just returned from the Michigan Womyn's Music Festival, a 35 year-old coming-together of women that happens out in the woods in the middle of
If you want to see your unconscious…
…just look at your life.” This is a paraphrase from Jiddhu Krishnamurti, an Indian philosopher and writer. He believed that humans only find truth through
Dreaming a new structure
The Boulder Center for Conscious Living has been open for over two years now. When we first opened the BCCL, we knew what we wanted:
There is nothing wrong with you
Cheri Huber wrote the best book I ever read about self-hatred, entitled There is Nothing Wrong with You. She walks the reader through the recesses
If you loved me…
Have you thought this? If you loved me, you would bring me flowers appreciate me more call/text/email me consider my feelings be more thoughtful not
Transparency evolves us
The theme of transparency has been up all week. Couples, colleagues, clients have wondered, why tell the truth? Isn’t it easier not to “hurt someone’s
Learning generosity through the internet
Yesterday, Seth Godin sent out a blog he subtitles “Santa Math.” He talked about all the ways people are stepping in to the world of
Manifestation
I am fascinated by the process of manifestation. How does something that begins as an idea turn into something that we can see, taste, feel,
Shifting into appreciation
I’m sitting on an airplane. Since it’s not time yet to play our electronic devices (and I’m sitting between two nice, quiet men), what I
A new paradigm for “business rate of return”
Today I was repairing our fence (several pickets were shattered when lightning struck a nearby cable box) when I dropped a box of nails. Instead
Manifesto
This is a time of upheaval. Institutions that we have relied upon to take care of us–banks, the government, industry, education, the military, health care–have
Let’s get this party started
Since 2008 is getting long of tooth, I want to take a minute to reflect on the magic that has happened here. I’d heard about
You’re not hearing me!
I teach and use persona work pretty much every day. When someone is really stuck in an issue, it’s liable to be because a persona
The unfulfilled promise of BLAMING
I had a brief foray into writing Country Western songs–they’re the best at expressing the true drama of life. Here’s one I especially liked (imagine
New beginnings: Endings
In the past six months, I’ve stepped consciously out into the space of the unknown. We opened the Boulder Center for Conscious Living, we bought
Integrity
I like to do a blog that matches our e-newsletter’s theme of the month. Today it’s all about integrity. Integrity is about seeing myself as
Celebration
I often pick Angel cards(from Doreen Virtue‘s deck) in the morning after I meditate, to reconnect with my unseen supporters and get a sense of
Dreams come true
Wow. As I stood in front of the group, getting ready to introduce Gay and Katie Hendricks, I had a strong sense of “this is
What’s a “yes”?
When I take the time to focus in on what my body is trying to communicate to me (sometimes at a VERY HIGH VOLUME), and
Making great and successful agreements
I first heard about the importance of agreements in 1995 and I’m still fine-tuning this ability. I sometimes revert to my old patterns of rushing
Chaos
If you walked into my office right now, you’d see: boxes of unassembled furniture; stacks of books all over the floor; business cards that have
Being with what is
I’ve been playing with an idea I recently heard that nearly all neuroses and other types of emotional suffering are the result of our inability