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Appreciation

Here’s to the dreamers

In 1993, I was one of those who marched on Washington to support gay rights. It was post Amendment Two, the dark days following Colorado’s

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Appreciation

Soothe it, don’t solve it

Have you had this conversation with a partner? (It’s likely that you were either “A” or “B” as this dynamic tends to lend itself to

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Appreciation

The power of love–pass it on!

We’ve heard these ideas over and over: Love is powerful. Love heals all wounds. Love what is. Love yourself. Love your neighbor as yourself.  All

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Authenticity

Taking a stand

A great friend of mine sent this post by Rachael Rice to me today. It’s long (you can find the whole post here). Here’s an

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Authenticity

Befriending the darkness

We’re moving into the darkest time of the year. The days are shortening; the nights seem to be increasing their steady pull into the intensity

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Workshops

The (Core) Essentials

THE (CORE) ESSENTIALS:  October 12-14 Cost $350 ($300 before September 12) This is the workshop for the workbook–the “Relationship Skills Workbook,” that is. Immerse yourself

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Appreciation

Selfish? Selfless…or Selfull

“You are so SELFISH!” This particular invective has so much power, people (especially women) arrange their entire lives around making sure that others won’t ever

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Communication

What Happened to the Zing?

I was just in Madison, Wisconsin, at the National Women’s Music Festival, where I taught some workshops on catalyzing conscious relationships. Since we were in

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Appreciation

Bark, Growl and Wimper!

I recently worked with a couple recently that was totally stuck. Sleep-deprived with a newborn, they found themselves irritable with each other, having conversations that

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Depression’s elegy

Robin Williams, our beloved cultural jester, gone by his own hand. How could this be? For those of us who have struggled with the mighty

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The scourge of blame

A plane is shot down with hundreds of lives lost, thousands more forever changed. Boys playing on the beach are bombed into unrecognizability. The finger-pointing

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Selfish? Selfless…or Selfull

“You are so SELFISH!” This particular invective has so much power, people (especially women) arrange their entire lives around making sure that others won’t ever

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For Leslie; for us all

You may have heard that we lost a dear friend last week. Leslie True Wilson died after a brief hospitalization. We had a celebration of

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This s*&% really works

We say that back and forth to each other at the BC3*, sometimes as a high-five, sometimes with wonderment on our faces. “You know, when

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What is your mantra?

man·tra  noun ˈmän-trə also ˈman- or ˈmən- : a sound, word, or phrase that is repeated by someone who is praying or meditating : a word or phrase that is

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The cost of Narrow Focus

Sirens blaring. The booming voice ominously repeating the warning to MOVE TO HIGHER GROUND IMMEDIATELY. The images on YouTube and TV of flooding and rescues

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It’s all true

Don’t you wish there was a way to figure out what’s true and what isn’t? As in–is it true that people are basically good, or

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Bark, growl, and whimper.

I worked with a couple recently that was totally stuck. Sleep-deprived with a newborn, they found themselves irritable with each other, having conversations that quickly

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Befriending the Goo

This morning I was just talking to someone about her process of being in the Goo. Last night it was a close family member who

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Coming out as a rutabagean

“When we’re fully in flow, we could be attracted to a rutabaga.”* —Gay Hendricks I’ve been getting more educated about transgender issues. My brilliant colleague,

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I can hardly believe it

Imagine this. It’s 1993. Amendment 2 had recently passed in Colorado, making it legal to discriminate against gays and lesbians. For Colorado gays and lesbians,

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Loving the bad guys

Having had time to process some of my horror and outrage about the Newtown shootings, I’ve had time to muse on the greater implications. Specifically, I’ve

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Conscious Giving and Receiving

“It’s the season of giving!”–Right? Perhaps–though maybe conscious giving and receiving require new skills. Specifically, the ability to ask yourself “what is the truth about

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My manifesto

In my last series of posts I introduced the idea that, in the choice between being right or being happy, choosing HAPPY means choosing you.

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Knowing versus Solving

When I taught at Michigan Womyn’s Music Festival, some participants were incredulous at the idea that it was possible for everyone to get everything they

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Join me for the RIDE Program

You may have read my recent post about having presented at the Michigan Womyn’s Music Festival. It’s this kind of event that re-inspires my work,

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Hello, Michigan!

Greetings to my sweet, brave, and, fun companions from the Michigan Womyn’s Music Festival! I had the honor and the thrill of teaching around 100 women

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How do you create?

Awhile back I read someone’s opinion (backed up by his research) that people aren’t more creative in groups. He suggested that, if companies are wanting

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The light and the dark

I’ve been seeing a young client who has become devastated by his inability to be happy, to uplift himself and those around him. To carry

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Loving the ride

I rode my bike home tonight. It was dark outside, and I was in my shirtsleeves–in March! The evening air felt exhilarating, and I stood

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Committing to life

Katie Hendricks just spent the weekend here in Boulder, spreading her wisdom to the BC3 and beyond. I’m fascinated and grateful that, even after 17

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The courage to be conscious

I led a “fishbowl coaching” session last night, where brave souls agree to be in the middle, getting coached by me, while others support and

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How do your fires burn?

Yesterday, I taught my annual One Day Intensive on Sexuality, Creativity, and Aliveness to a wonderful group of participants. It was a lively day, as

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Stories solidify, feelings flow

We humans are brilliant at storytelling, and, judging from the endless stream of movies, plays, TV shows, and celebrity gossip columns, we entrance ourselves with

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