(I facilitate a wonderful group called the Life Alignment Program. An excellent question came up from one of the members and I decided to share my response here.) The question: “Isn’t the point to express feelings, whenever and wherever, in order to be transparent and authentic?” Communicating about your emotional world to those around you …
A plane is shot down with hundreds of lives lost, thousands more forever changed. Boys playing on the beach are bombed into unrecognizability. The finger-pointing begins, warships are on alert. Tremendous energy is used up in an age-old human practice: Blame. Blame’s favorite sibling is, of course, being right. As in: I am so sure …
I’ve just spent the day with my colleagues at the Boulder Center for Conscious Community. We had our annual Open House and Sampler Day, opening our doors to the public, showing off what we’re up to at the BC3. The fact that today is the tenth anniversary of the 9/11 bombings put what the BC3 …
I’ve been posting about CONTROL (somehow, that word deserves all caps). There is more to come, but such a heavy subject deserves a breathing break. Ahhhhhh. I want to introduce you to my latest teacher about control. No, not my partner, though truly our relationship has offered me an entire curriculum on the subject. I …
Have you ever uttered (or heard) these words? “I don’t feel connected to you.” Behind this declaration is an idea that connection is like a delicate thread spun by some mysterious process, one that gets easily cut by an unseen hand. However, if you understand what “connection” is actually made of, you can create intimate …
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I remember when I first discovered the idea of “fair fighting.” Growing up in a family where the siblings fought quite a lot, this idea made sense to me. Even as kids, there were rules: No pinching. No spitting. No hitting in the face. (Unfortunately, as the youngest, there wasn’t a rule about “fight with …
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