Co-Creativity

Playing Your Own Game

When I was little, I started out by fighting dirty. In our household (I was the youngest of four in the 1960s) the siblings fought a lot. I’ve since wondered about that culture, where punching, pushing, and brawling was the order of the day, but it definitely prepared me to stand my ground. And, over …

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CALL TO ACTION– Be an Activist: Choose to Live Above the Line

Are you feeling stressed out about the current political landscape? Want to have a flowing, maybe even an enjoyable experience of the US election? Here’s an invitation: Below is a reprise of a post I wrote in 2017. It will give you the context for what I’m up to. I’m bringing together anyone who commits …

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THIS IS WHAT WE’RE HERE FOR

Wild fires. Scorching heat, suffocating smoke. The slow unspooling of the pandemic, with its high mortality rate, long-term physical damage, wide-spread economic and educational ramifications. Racial and class inequities coming to the fore; marchers in the street. An ever-widening political chasm encouraged by our highest leaders. How in the world is any individual supposed to …

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GO TEAM HUMAN!

I have a coach named Gail whom I love. She congratulates me on what I’m doing right; when she notices something I could improve on, she calmly tells me what I did, then how I could do it better. Here I am, 62 years old, and just this summer, I’ve refined my throwing style, can …

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Choose your story wisely

We both stood there astride our bikes, our voices choking with grief. Kath pointed at the green foliage surrounding us and said, “Can you imagine if all of this was on fire?” No, I couldn’t. It’s unimaginable. And yet the Amazon rainforest burns. Here we are again, facing a calamity many miles from us, and …

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Thirty things I learned (about relationships) in thirty years

In July, my spouse Kathy and I celebrated our thirtieth anniversary. To commemorate this wonderful occasion, I did 30 posts on “Thirty Things I Learned (About Relationships) in Thirty Years.” A few of you asked that I put all of them together. So here is my Thanksgiving gift to you all: All thirty in one …

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Door #3: Beyond patriarchy into co-creativity

As we’ve collectively whirled through the latest political battle, we stand back and assess the winners and losers. The winners chortle and celebrate their spoils, the losers become embittered and vow to fight harder. It’s been epic, a true drama of victims and villains and heroes going head to head like gladiators in the ring. As …

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The entanglement of power dynamics

POWER DYNAMICS: We know ’em when we feel ’em

Today I’m sharing my biggest discovery, culled out of over 40,000 hours of working with clients: All problems in relationships come from entangled power dynamics. I’ve tried so many approaches to getting issues to shift, both with my clients and in my own relationship. Speaking the other’s love language. Watching the ratio of criticisms to appreciations. Feeling …

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